HEALTH
Health is wellness of the body, the mind, and the soul; their alignment with one another is the art of living well.

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WISDOM
Wisdom is understanding of the self, others, and the nature of things; it is essential to  living as if everything is a miracle.
Nothing Lasts

In contemporary living, there is much focus on speed.  Life is short, and there is much to be done and accomplished. As a result, many of us feel the compression of time, so much so that we have developed a compulsive mind with a multitasking mindset; as an illustration, some of us are even texting when we are supposed to be driving.

Why is it that our minds won’t quiet down? Do we really have that many life goals to accomplish?

It is because we know and believe that nothing lasts. Because nothing lasts, so we begin to look for new ones to replace the ones that have expired. An example is a love relationship: if it doesn’t turn out to be what we have expected, we just let it finish itself, and start looking for another one because nothing lasts.

Ironically enough, because nothing lasts, so we should stay in the present, instead of projecting our minds into the future. A case in point in a love relationship, instead of looking for another relationship in the future, why not focus on the present, that is, fixing the current love relationship? “Nothing lasts” means the current love relationship may not last forever, but do your best and enjoy it, while remembering that neither will the one in the future last. Being appreciative of what we are now having is the real meaning of “nothing lasts.”

If we can focus more on the present moment, instead of constantly shifting back and forth between the past and the future, our minds may become enlightened to the extent that we may see the natural cycle of all things, such as life begets death, success and failure complement each other-everything follows a natural cycle and nothing lasts forever. Accordingly, we should learn to let go - letting go of all our attachments to this material world. Letting go is a pre-condition of receiving -- just as Mother Teresa said: “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Give more to receive more; after all, nothing lasts.

The ancient wisdom of Lao Tzu, an ancient sage from China, shows wisdom in living in harmony in this contemporary world of chaos and disharmony.

“Life lives itself in us, when we focus on the Creator.
From that focal point, around which all of life revolves.

We watch everything come and go,
with no judgment, no preference.
Everything that is, was, or ever will be,
will return to its origin: the Creator.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 16)


But it is not easy to think like Lao Tzu, because we all have a pre-conditioned mindset -- pre-conditioned by our cultures, our upbringings, and our ego-selves.

Therefore, to think out of the box, we must, first and foremost, empty our minds in order to fully appreciate the profound wisdom of Lao Tzu.

“An empty mind with no craving and no expectation helps us let go.
Being in the world and not of the world, we attain heavenly grace.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 3)

With an empty mind for everything, we attain human wisdom that may enable us to understand better the Biblical wisdom that nothing lasts

“. . . all human beings are like grass; they last no longer than wild flowers. 7 Grass withers and flowers fade when the LORD sends the wind blowing over them. People are no more enduring than grass. 8 Yes, grass withers and flowers fade, but the word of our God endures forever.” (Isaiah 40:7-8)

So, don’t waste your life “chasing the wind” and searching for things that don’t last anyway. Live in the present, and live it to the fullest -- just follow the natural law of spontaneity.

“Before we can shrink anything,
we must first let it expand.
Before we can get rid of something,
we must first let it flourish.
Before we can receive something,
we must first give it away.
They are called the natural laws
of the way things were, are, and will be.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 36)

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        The Wisdom of Letting Go

Let go of the past -- your anger, grudges, disappointments. Let go of your attachment to the material world -- your fame, fortune, status. Let go of the future -- your assumptions, predictions, expectations. Live in the present, which is the ultimate reality. Let go to let God, who is in control of everything. Let go to receive more. 
                 You Just Don't Die!
                             
This 154-page book is more than just about how to live to a ripe old age; it is about how to live as if everything is a miracle even though you may have many life changes and challenges as you plod along your life journey. You need consciousness of the body, the mind, and the soul to live a meaningful and purposeful life, if you just don't die! Live in the now,  and live  as if there were no tomorrow, and tomorrow is just another day, if you just don't die!

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                                        My Way! No Way! TAO Is the Way!
                TAO Wisdom To Live And Survive In A World Of Depression
                             
This book is perhaps one the few books with a totally unconventional approach to depression, a universal mind disorder. Instead of the conventional ways of avoiding depression with distractions, such as exercise, suppressing its symptoms with affirmations and visualizations, and elevating its depressive moods with medications, this 180-page book uses the ancient wisdom from China, what is known as TAO wisdom, to experience anything and everything in depression, that is, going through every aspect of depression. 

TAO wisdom may enlighten you so that you may ultimately free yourself from depression, or at least look at your own depression very differently.

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IMPERMANENCE IS CHANGE

Impermanence is an inescapable fact of all human existence, clearly evidenced in the process of falling sick, growing old, and dying in all humans, as well as in the process of decaying of all things perishable and the passing away of anything liable to pass. There are no exceptions, and that is the indisputable fact of impermanence of anything and everything.

Perspectives of impermanence

According to Buddha, life is like a river. The water flowing in a river is like a progressive and a successive series of different but unified movements of water, all joining together to create the impression of only one continuous flow of water. Likewise, human existence is moment to moment, with each moment leading to the next. It is also an illusion that the person in this moment is the same person in the next moment; just as the river of yesterday is not quite the same as the river of today. To think otherwise is human illusion.

Even from a scientific point of view, Buddha’s perspective is true. We know that cell divisions take place in each living being continuously: old cells in our bodies die and are continuously replaced by new ones.  Technically speaking, all individuals are constantly subject to change, and the change is a continuous movement, just like the flowing water in a river.

Essence of change

The Creator has created for us a world of constant changes: everything is changing with every moment, remaining only with that very moment, and nothing remains permanent. It is through changes that we may transform ourselves into a better individual. Even in a difficult and challenging environment, we may learn from our mistakes and wrong choices in life, and so change ourselves. Change is transformation, which is educational and self-enlightening. Transformation is synonymous with impermanence, which is the essence of change.

Understanding that anything and everything is impermanent is already self-awakening. Nothing is permanent: the good as well as the bad things that happen to us are impermanent; nothing lasts forever. We all are aware of this universal truth of impermanence. We all know that we cannot live to well beyond one hundred years, and yet we resist our aging process, continuously fixing our faces and bodies to make them look younger. We may have the face of a forty-year-old but the body and the mind of a seventy-year-old. We simply refuse to let go of the impermanence of all things; we desperately and self-delusively cling on to the “permanence” of all our attachments.
The illusion or self-delusion is that many of us wish the impermanent were the permanent. It is this wishful thinking that makes us unhappy. We were once healthy and now our health has declined, and we are unhappy. We were wronged by our enemies, and we still hold on to our old grudges, instead of forgiving and letting them go, and we are unhappy. Our past glories gave us the ego, which we refuse to let go of, and we become depressed and unhappy.


Life is about changes, and living is about letting go of what is impermanent that we naively believe and wish to be permanent.

Remember, nothing is permanent, and each and every moment remains only with that very moment. Therefore, live in the present moment, and live all your moments to their best and to the fullest as if everything is a miracle.

The above is taken from the book: Anything Is Everything; Everything Is Nothing; Nothing Is Everything.
This book explains the paradoxes of life: what "anything is everything" may be true to some people, but not to every one; "everything is nothing"  is the reality of life, which is the impermanence of everything; "nothing is everything" is the profound wisdom to understand that the nothingness of everything may ultimately become everything if there is enlightenment in living as if everything is a miracle.

For more information, go to the following:

ANYTHING IS EVERYTHING

EVERYTHING IS NOTHING

NOTHING IS EVERYTHING

This book explains the paradoxes of life: what "anything is everything" may be true to some people, but not to every one; "everything is nothing"  is the reality of life, which is the impermanence of everything; "nothing is everything" is the profound wisdom to understand that the nothingness of everything may ultimately become everything if there is enlightenment in living as if everything is a miracle.

For more information, go to the following:

ANYTHING IS EVERYTHING

EVERYTHING IS NOTHING

NOTHING IS EVERYTHING

THE HAPPINESS WISDOM

Bruce Lipton
, author and cellular biologist, once said: “The function of the mind is to create coherence between our own beliefs and the reality that we experience. We generally perceive that we are running our lives with our own wishes and our own desires. But neuroscience reveals a startling fact: we only run our lives with our creative, conscious mind about 5 percent of the time; 95 percent of the time, our life is controlled by the beliefs and habits that are previously programmed in the subconscious mind.”

It is your pre-programmed subconscious mind that tells you money can give you happiness. That can also explain why you may find yourself working in jobs that you do not even like due to your subconscious belief that money is anything and everything in your life.

The whole world out there that you see in front of you right now is nothing more than a projection of what you feel deep inside. Not only is it a projection of your deep feelings but also you internal energy. Yes, money is energy too, just like you, me, anything and everything else. Money is an expression of energy of your subconscious mind, building a complex system of money beliefs, such as “money makes the world go round” and “when I have enough money . . . then I’ll be happy, and can do whatever I want to do.”

But according to Harvard Business Review, money and happiness are not positively correlated, because money may make people less generous and more demanding and domineering. In addition, money may not bring out the best of an individual: the more money that individual has, the more focused on self that individual may become, and the less sensitive to the needs of people around, as well as the more likely to do the wrong things due to the feeling of right and entitlement.

The bottom line: any attachment to money only creates an illusion in the mind.

An illustration

Barbara Woolworth Hutton
, also known as “the poor little rich girl”, was one of the wealthiest women in the world during the Great Depression. She had experienced an unhappy childhood with the early loss of her mother at age five and the neglect of her father, and thus setting her the stage for a life of difficulty in forming relationships.

Married and divorced seven times, she acquired grand foreign titles, but was maliciously treated and exploited by several of her husbands. Publicly, she was much envied for her lavish lifestyle and her exuberant wealth; privately, she was very insecure and unhappy, leading to addiction and fornication.

She died of a heart attack at age 66. At her death, the formerly wealthy Hutton was on the verge of bankruptcy as a result of exploitation by others around her, as well as due to her own lavish and luxurious lifestyle.

She was the unhappy poor little rich girl! She was widely reported in the media, and her story was even made into a Hollywood movie: “The Poor Little Rich Girl.”

The reality is that Barbara simply had too many attachments in her life: beauty, celebrity, fame, love, and above all, wealth-they had created too many illusions that they all ultimately brought about her unhappiness.

Remember,  the more  attachments  you have,  the
grater is your ego-self; unfortunately, an ego-self is not the real self, and so the so-called “happiness” is  nothing more than just an illusion in the mind.

Read The Happiness Wisdom to find out more.

Stephen Lau

Copyright© by Stephen Lau